birth management

How to heal from a traumatic birth

If your birth did not go as planned you should seek out some help as early as possible. I really do mean as early as possible. Asking your GP for a referral to a counselor at your one week or six week postpartum check is the perfect thing to do. You can talk it out while it is still fresh and avoid those conversations that will end with '...but you are healthy and baby are healthy'. Healthy is a state of mind and a state of body.

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This comes with a caveat that unless you come across this article you may not even think about this in those early, sleepless, new born days. You may be back at work and finally have some head space to examine your feelings around this. You might be thinking of conceiving again or the pain of difficult birth may not reappear again until you are pregnant. If this is the case I want you to know it is not too late. And most importantly if you had heard those comments above from people that don't quite understand I want you to know that your feelings are valid and you deserve peace around this. 

Counselling with a certified psychologist is definitely the best place to start. You need to be heard in a safe space without any judgement. While the quality of care given will have significantly impacted on your experience you also need to find your own part in the birth - it may have been misplaced trust or passive acceptance. It is not that you need to carry a burden of guilt in accepting a role in a traumatic birth but a way to empower yourself to change something for a better experience if you are having more children. For example if you trusted the wrong OB then you can do more research and ask more questions for a subsequent pregnancy so you can have an outcome you want. 

The most important thing to remember is that your feelings about the experience is valid. That 'healthy baby / healthy Mama at any cost' is not a healthy mindset and does  not account for mental health which is just as important as physical health.  Any experience during birth or condition after birth that makes you feel less than whole should be heard and healed.

  

When to start childbirth classes?

When to start childbirth classes?

Those early days of pregnancy when you are overjoyed at the news, knowledge hungry and very enthusiastic seem like the ideal time to take birthing classes. Except it isn't

Is HypnoBirthing® pain free?

If you have heard anything about HypnoBirthing® you may have come across an idea that is is pain free. That sounds amazing - right a promise of a pain free birth in a culture where our expectations are for agony. So how is it possible that we can guarantee a pain free birth? 

HypnoBirthing® Mama's do tend to have faster labours, quicker deliveries, less tears and less complications. We can't promise a pain free labour. But we do believe in the ideal physiological birth that it is unlikely you will experience 'pain'. Comes with a caveat that even the most advanced HypnoBirthing® Mama will feel some discomfort during the 'Ring of Fire'. 

Ring of fire - you know what I am talking about

Ring of fire - you know what I am talking about

Now I can say this with confidence even though I DID experience pain during labour. I feel every period in my back and I suspected when I laboured I would feel it in my back. I did sixteen hours of my twenty hour labour feeling it all in my back. I got to sixteen hours and - hello transition! I wanted the bath and I wanted sterile water injections. Sterile water injections are exactly what they sound like - sterile water injected into your back to block the pain receptors delivering a message to your brain. Side effects to bub : NONE! Very low chance of maternal side affects as well. 

So wait - what?! I'm a HypnoBirthing® Mama and I took pain relief? Heck yeah I did. I did my research and had that option in my tool kit and when I needed it I used it. This technique is not about judgement and it isn't about one type of birth - it is about empowerment and education. 

Sorry I deviated from the topic a bit there... Once the sterile water injections starting working (immediately) I could feel my surges. I could feel the tightenings starting and stopping and I could breathe my baby down. What I did not feel, once I removed the abnormal physiological symptom of my labour was pain. How awesome is that. For the next four hours I laboured and birthed my baby using my body's natural expulsive reflex and some breathing. And until that baby was crowning and stretching my perineum, vagina and vulva, ie/ ring of fire and holy heck it is pretty fiery, I felt NO PAIN!  Just the sensation of my uterus working toward getting that baby out.    

What we are advocating for with the information we provide and the relaxation techniques we teach is that fear stays out of your birthing experience. If you can eliminate fear you can eliminate tension which leads to pain. 

If you think this sounds like something you can wrap your head around then please drop me a comment below, call me, send me an email or a message of my Facebook or Insta. I am ready to help you birth POWERFULLY!