healthy birth

Speaking about the bump...

It’s not okay to comment on my body.


I am challenged in my torso length. What this means is I can’t buy dresses off the rack and if I am making a fitted dress I have to take 2 – 3 cm from the waist to get a proper fit. My legs are longer than average in proportion to my torso and that means I can break fashion rules like wearing an ankle strap with a knee length skirt. So you know, you win some you lose some. Ultimately it isn’t actually a big deal until I am pregnant.

Yes my belly is cartoonishly large. I can see that you don’t need to tell me.

Yes my belly is cartoonishly large. I can see that you don’t need to tell me.


My first pregnancy I wore flowing dresses that hid my bump or covered it up. So the comments about belly size were made only by my Dad. This time round I showed  this miracle off. I was growing a baby in there something I find amazing – I won’t let anyone forget it. The only problem with this from five months with increasing frequency I got comments like this ALL the time…


‘Are you sure you aren’t having twins’…

Er yeah I’m sure. I had appendicitis and needed a lot of extra scans. 8 in total and yeah there is definitely just one.


‘Is your due date right?’…

Yep. I miscarried in April and was tracking my period so I’m pretty damn sure of due date. Oh you feel that’s an awkward overshare well maybe you should think twice before you say something.


‘Wow you are really big’…

Actually my fundal height is tracking perfectly for how many weeks I am.


‘Gosh you’ve popped, again’…

No I’m not a champagne bottle I am growing a human.


Do you know why these comments are inappropriate? It assumes you as a stranger, work colleague or friend have a right to intimate knowledge of my body. FYI - You don’t.  And if you wouldn’t make a comment to a man then don’t make a comment to a woman at any stage of life. Her belly is her business and it comes with a lot of baggage. You don’t know someone’s fertility journey and as above you can see a question about due dates can bring up feelings about miscarriage, IVF, delayed conception for health reasons or any number of things. Did you want to upset someone while they are in a vulnerable position in life? Probably not I would imagine.


So the next time you see a baby bump rethink your comments. Try a generic ‘You look amazing’ or ‘What a beautiful bump’. If you’re a stranger - hold your tongue.


Birth Story - Baby 2

Birth Story - Baby 2

I am a HypnoBirthing Practioner. Not only was I practicing my HypnoBirthing techniques from 15 weeks pregnant I was teaching other couples and reinforcing my learning. I had experienced one HypnoBirth with my eldest which was a really gentle and calm experience. I knew what I was in for – or so I thought.